Top 10 Mistakes to avoid in getting back your Love

Here are some mistakes or to call rightly blunders in trying to regain your love :

1. Acting Overly Nice And Believing It Makes You A Great Catch

2. Trying To Persuade Your Ex To Come Back With Logic

3. Playing The Role Of Human Doormat

4. Showering Your Ex With Flowers And Gifts

            5. Saying “I Love You” Every 5 Minutes

6. Missing The Whole Point Of Chemistry

7. Giving Your Ex All Your Power

8. The Looks And Money Trap

9. Mis-Reading The Cue

10. Not Getting Help

Acting Overly Nice And Believing It Makes You A Great Catch:

Conflict makes things interesting. And a relationship without conflict is BORING.Being too nice comes across as being too passive, insecure, anxious, and predictable. That’s BORING.Want to find that “spark” with someone special? Then don’t forget that it takes friction to create a spark. Stand your ground.

 Trying To Persuade Your Ex To Come Back With Logic: 

You cannot argue or logically persuade your way back into a relationship. Sure, you can argue yourself out of one just fine, but it doesn’t work in reverse.You can’t convince a person to like you, love you or want to be with you. Emotions don’t work that way.A person’s heart is reactive, not logical. So instead of trying to talk them back in to it, there are some things you need to DO to get their heart to respond. 

Playing The Role Of Human Doormat:

That means as soon as something better comes along, you’re gone. Do NOT beg to be taken back.I hope this doesn’t describe you…To many people plead with their ex, “Please stay, I’ll do anything you want…”NO! Don’t do it. That doesn’t make for a romantic relationship. It may turn you in to a sex buddy for a short time, but they will lose all respect for you.

Showering Your Ex With Flowers And Gifts

Flowers and gifts are best used to say THANK YOU or I LIKE/LOVE YOU. But it does NOT build attraction.In fact, it can be a repellent. It tells your ex you don’t believe you’re good enough to be taken back on your own merits… so you pad the package with presents to cover up flaws.That’s an attraction-killer! Don’t do it.

Saying “I Love You” Every 5 Minutes: 

It’s so easy to fall into this fatal trap of telling your ex-lover how much they mean to you and how much you love them… mistakenly believing once they “get” how much you love them they’ll come running back.WRONG! It doesn’t work like that, or even close.Smothering your ex with affection right now is not romantic. And despite what you may think, “But I really, really like you,” is not what your ex wants to hear.Your strong feelings may in fact be the very thing that pushed your ex away to begin with.

Missing The Whole Point Of Chemistry:

Too many people completely miss the point of attracting the opposite sex because they do things that would attract themselves or others like them… in other words, people of the same gender.That doesn’t mean men should stop working on their appearance or that women should stop trying to be good people. But it does mean you need to make an effort to work on the things that will attract your partner.

 Giving Your Ex All Your Power:

Do NOT act like your life is over if your ex splits.This simply surrenders all power to your ex and makes you look like a pathetic wuss they can walk all over. That’s NOT attractive and it will only last until someone new comes along.You absolutely MUST keep the respect of your ex if you want a chance at winning them back.

The Looks And Money Trap:

Our culture makes it so easy for people to believe that looks and money are all people care about.But you know what? People really aren’t that shallow. Especially after you’ve been involved in a close relationship with the person.Looks and money are not the foundations of a lasting relationship. They’re window dressing, and window dressing always gets tired after a time.Some people make the mistake of saying… “I’ll lose 15 pounds and then they’ll want me back.”

Mis-Reading The Cue:

There’s usually a window when your ex is giving you a chance to make things right. But you NEED to read the cues to know when this window is, when it isn’t, and how to respond the way they’re hoping you will.This part gets a little advanced, but you can learn from people who have studied human behavior, especially man/woman dynamics and romantic relationships.When you get good at it you can begin to influence (or what some call “manipulate”) and gain control over any interaction with your ex by giving cues and signals of your own.

Not Getting Help:

Again, most people start a painful break up by making mistake after mistake. It’s a hard time for anyone to know what to do… but there is a right and a wrong way to try and win your ex back.It makes some people uncomfortable but if you take the time to learn some things about psychology and people’s basic needs and desires from a partner, you can regain control and pull your partner’s heart back in to yours.But you’ve gotta make the effort, and that means getting help. You’ve taken the first step by reading these 10 mistakes. Now it’s time to get to home and try to overcome these mistakes.

HOPE YOU GET BACK YOUR EX SOON